I
originally wanted to post this on the 8th of March, being
International Women's Day,
but something known as 'real life' got in way. Anyway, I would like to grab
the occasion to take a look at how all that feminism* and gender
equality is working out. Right here, right now. I have talked about
it before, in
Spain,
and I gave an overview of the situation on the streets of
Denmark.
But really, where are we?
Where the silence gives room to the thoughts that would otherwise drown in the noise of outside life
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Showing posts with label alcohol. Show all posts
09 March 2013
Gender equality. Right here, right now?
Labels:
abortion,
alcohol,
discrimination,
doors,
English,
exclusionary practices,
female sexuality,
gender identity,
gender relations,
high heels,
human rights,
patronising,
politics,
public space,
society,
violence
29 January 2013
Når i Danmark de dig tiltale
Sidste sommer skrev jeg
et længere indlæg om, hvordan jeg oplevede street harassment i Spanien. Kort opsummeret for ikke spansk-læsende brokkede jeg
mig langt væk over ikke at kunne læse en bog på stranden i fred,
uden at den ene og den anden mandsperson spurgte til mit helbred, min
alder, min civilstatus eller kommenterede andre menneskers
bryststørrelse. Jeg erklærede også en intention om for fremtiden
at give svar på tiltale, og fortælle d'herrer, hvad jeg mener om deres
opførsel (også de damer når nødvendigt). Et halvt års tid og et nyt land senere finder jeg øjeblikket inde at vende tilbage til emnet og undersøge, om jeg har
fulgt mit eget fortsæt, og om konteksten gør en forskel, for både
kommentarer og reaktioner.
Labels:
alcohol,
Dansk,
Denmark,
discrimination,
gender relations,
patronising,
public space,
society,
Spain
08 January 2013
If you see a stranger on a bus...
Just another silent onlooker
Already upon entering the
bus, they catch my attention. It's Saturday night, Halloween
celebration day, and people are out partying. I left my party early
and am taking the first night bus, it's barely 1 am. They're bent over
her bag, obviously drunk, and she screams to him about finding 'it'.
(Turns out she's referring to his bus-ticket.) I enter the bus, pick
my seat and start looking for my mp3-player and my half-eaten snack.
They finally enter the
bus, he loudly thanks the driver and informs that he's the nicest guy
they met today. They discuss about which seats to pick, and she sits
down and yells at him to come and sit next to her.
He addresses some other
bus passengers, first in Danish, but switches to English when he
realises they're foreigners. Begins complaining about her, how she
talks to him. How would random bus guy react if his girlfriend gave
him orders? (Bus guy would do as told.) And if she said so and so?
(Still the same.) And so on, making more and more detailed questions.
Someone behind me says, “you're not getting any sympathy, cut it
out.” He ignores this.
Finally he sits next to
her, wishing the other couple and me a good night. Shortly afterwards
a friend of the foreign couple enters the bus, and they discuss exams
and other everyday events. Within minutes he's back. Is he
interrupting? No no.. he isn't. And he begins talking, mostly
offending* her, and once in a while she offends him, too, asking him
to come and sit down. She asks for cigarettes, he offends her,
informs her she can't smoke inside the bus. She asks for them again,
he gives in, throw them at her, saying, “you can have your fucking
cigarettes.” Goes on discussing with the foreigners, exchanging
life stories, trying to convince the friend to start thai boxing. The
foreign couple are aware that I'm following the scene, but say
nothing.
Labels:
alcohol,
Denmark,
domestic violence,
English,
gender relations,
public space,
right vs duty,
violence
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