tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33242772.post8810847184664307383..comments2023-03-26T09:43:20.249+02:00Comments on Teléfonos que no suenan: Men wink at meUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33242772.post-33717945705205028342013-03-10T14:32:25.974+01:002013-03-10T14:32:25.974+01:00Thanks for your comment, and I definitely see your...Thanks for your comment, and I definitely see your point. However, even when working in a coffee shop with the same every day, there's a choice in *how* to be personal; as you say, you used to smile. Whatever someone personally means with winking, it still carries an enormous baggage of subtext that other things don't, so choosing this picks from that context, whether you want to or not. And it's also a thing that I saw guys to at girls (in the coffeeshop context), not guys at guys, so these people knew very well what it signified. A simple smile would have done the trick and been less potentially patronising. What I'm asking for, I guess, is also more consciousness about why we do what we do, even in these small thingsAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07153619997040725881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33242772.post-73290787584874444922013-02-25T12:04:36.557+01:002013-02-25T12:04:36.557+01:00In an attempt to defend all the nice men who have ...In an attempt to defend all the nice men who have winked at me, I tend to think that it's more like a subconscious flirting,( at least in a coffee shop) something that people don't really realise, therefore most of the times (esüecially in the case of a coffee shop or local store) you should just let it go. It's nothing sexual, nothing patronizing, it's nothing at all ( in the case of a coffee shop it could be rather seen as the description of a job, to make client's day a bit nicer, or a way to let a client know that the barmen is not just a coffee machine, giving you your next latte and doing so every day, it makes visiting a coffee shop seem a bit more like an experience of an "human exchange" - someone noticed you in this world where people just pass each other by, without giving a damn about others, yet it's as meaningless as American "how are you") I don't wink at people, but when I work at the coffee shop I just use the smile, for the same reasons following the same logic. I have to agree with you that tehere are also lot's of cases of taht annoying winking, where a man is patronizing you, and there you are allowed to be seriously annoyed and show your contempt, I do the same. Helikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09568222248412295296noreply@blogger.com